The age of convenience

“Fire tests gold, suffering tests brave men.” – Seneca

First off, let me start with a little disclaimer. The things I’m about to say may offend some, but this is just my opinions and my recent reflections in life. I will not say that I totally abhor convenience, money, and technology, but to rather point out how absurd our reliance to conveniences, the lengths we go through for money and on how most men abandon their virtues for the pursuit of conveniences and money. I totally enjoy Netflix and writing in the wonderful world of WordPress as a matter of fact and I totally needed money to fund my house renovation project, so please don’t hate =)

From high-speed internet to a device that folds our laundry for us, it’s almost on a daily basis that someone breaks new grounds in terms of our technological advancements. Somewhere in someone’s basement, somebody is tinkering on something to revolutionize our way of living. To make it easier, more convenient… Or is it?

A week ago, I witness a very heated exchange between my younger brother and our youngest sister. I watched how our sister berated my brother about his wife and children just because he owes her… money.

My brother borrowed money from our sister to fund his small motorcycle garage because it was more convenient than getting a loan from somebody else. As the business grew so as their resentment toward each other, with our sister often clashing my brother’s wife.

The incident forced me to reevaluate a man’s role in a world of convenience. The age where a man’s gift is looked down on and only called upon and appreciated when needed. Even men forsake their own manhood and virtues because it’s no longer convenient.

The age of convenience favors those who can afford it and to afford the world of conveniences you need to make money, lots of money. The more money you have the more conveniences you can afford and the more conveniences you can afford gives you more time to make more money. But convenience always comes with a price…

The age of convenience makes very little room for a man and his gifts. His strength, his resilience, his courage and his other gifts are no longer needed in this age when we have the technology for just about anything. Even to the conception and raising of a child, a woman can simply get a donor and make more money to make it more convenient. A life of a man is expendable (sigh)…

The world has become so convenient that even a man’s true virtues are no longer required, making most men abandon the pursuit of their own virtue. But what if… one day, the world loses all of its conveniences. What if there’s no hot water, no high-speed internet, no fast food restaurants, no roofs above our head? What if money has lost its value? What if all we’ve gotten good at is earning money and loaning ourselves to afford those fancy gadgets and other latest conveniences, technology has to offer? What if the world needed men, our strength, our courage, our willingness to do the dirty work?

I guess what I’m trying to convey in this post is that people, especially men shouldn’t abandon their virtues just because it is no longer convenient. Do it not for the world but to themselves and by that, in my opinion, would make the world a better place, not with its conveniences. How I wish it would be convenient for me to earn money just by writing, but the reality is I’m not a great writer yet still I write. I write for wisdom, for that connection I share with those who read my writing, I write for something that I could be proud of.


TMI Tuesdays #7

1. Picture the child you once were, what did that child do very well?

I remember being very quiet as a child, likes to keep it to himself. I remember being good at puzzles and at observing the things around him. I remember him doing well at school despite his laziness.

2. What are you really good at now?

I should say that I’ve become really confident about dressing well. I’ve gotten good at carrying myself well around others and far from my usual socially awkward self.

3. Did you ever expect love in return and not get it?

Yes, lots of times. So I taught myself not to expect too much and learned to prioritized myself first.

4. Who do you need to get in touch with because it has been so long?

Old friends, I’ve recently got in touch with a friend and bandmate that I’ve had a falling out to make amends with the past.

5. What are your thoughts on this:“Every woman deserves her special day. I get that. But does it really have to cost so much fucking money? I mean, c’mon. If you’re serious about building a future with a guy, why bankrupt him?”

Things don’t have to be that expensive, and if she doesn’t understand that. Then maybe she’s not the one for you. If she is, then maybe she would be happy even with just your company. If it’s way above with what you can afford, then maybe you shouldn’t.

Bonus: What is your number one priority?

Right now, the renovation of my old house. I’ve neglected it in the past and become a real mess. For long-term, I continue working on improving myself and to become a better dad to my daughter.

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What is love… Baby don’t hurt me, no more…

“You must understand that love never keeps a man from pursuing his destiny. If he abandons that pursuit, it’s because it wasn’t true love… the love that speaks the Language of the World.” – Paolo Coelho

Love is the most wonderful feeling ever, or is it? Love is the greatest source of our inspiration. Love gives us happiness, it gives us warmth, it makes us see the world through a different lens. Love makes the world go round as they say, and the whole world is chock full of addicts of love. But along love comes our heartbreak, our unrealistic expectations the leads to heartbreak and the wisdom we acquire from it.

Coming from failed relationships after the other, I am no stranger to heartbreak. Heartbreaks are hard and it hurts, regardless of how amicable it ended. The nagging feeling where you always ask yourself where the hell it went wrong? The moment where everything you’ve got going on in your life got derailed and you’ve been left with no direction. Suddenly you are lost…

But I’ve always believed that there’s a lesson in everything. That you’ve never really lost at something, you just learn and try to be a bit stronger and a bit wiser the next time. Never letting your heartbreaks prevent you from loving again and let your heartbreak set the standard for your future relationships.

How you love a person will always be a reflection of how you love yourself. Seeing your own beauty through them like a mirror. Love is the way your soul radiates through them and everything is at peace. Love exist exactly at the point where your reality and desires meet. It is not unrealistic yet not nondescript.

I’ve been single for more than a year now and it has given me plenty of time to reassess my ideals of love and set new standards for myself. I deserve someone who would trust in my wisdom first and foremost. Someone who would trust me more or as much as they’ll love me. A woman who is a complementary opposite of me. I deserve a woman who would choose me and will not suppress me and will openly accept my gifts.

I’ve matured enough to stop hoping for an easy woman, a woman who won’t test me. I’ve already opened myself to the idea that maybe there is no one out there for me. But despite that, I’ve chosen to live my life the best I could and with an open heart believing that love is a wonderful thing.

Love will not complete you but rather love will see the completeness in you. Love will magnify your imperfect radiance, love will not be blind to your flaws but rather focus on the goodness in you.

TMI Tuesday #6

1. Is your sex life more fantasy or reality?

Sad to say but just a fantasy, I’ve been single for a long time now.

2. If you could hook-up with a past lover (with no repercussions or regret), who would it be and why? (No need to use real names just briefly describe the person and their relationship to you.)

I would say no one, but just for the fun of it i’d say L. A previous lover I had just because she’s a submissive and a total freak in the bedroom

3. You can only indulge in one of the following sex acts for the rest of your life, which would you choose to enjoy?
a. oral sex, only giving
b. 69
c. oral sex, only receiving
d. mutual masturbation

Mutual masturbation, just because I like watching =)

4. With each lover do you pay attention to what they want or do you have a repertoire that you stick to when having sex?

I usually do have things to do, yet at the same time I also make myself aware of my lover’s wants.

5. Do you initiate sex for healthful benefits, e.g., to sleep better or relieve pain?

Yeah, Ive also have difficulties going to sleep. So having sex before going to bed helps me relax and makes it easier for me to get some sleep.

Bonus: Do you understand the clitoris?

Not really, but according to my previous lovers I’m doing quite well in bed.

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A simple man and his breakfast

“I’m a simple man. I like pretty, dark-haired women and breakfast food.” – Ron Swanson

I think we can all agree that breakfast is the most important meal of the day. It is the first meal we take to refuel us after a long night’s sleep. Breakfast staples vary from culture to culture and household to household. For us, its bacon and eggs or as me and my daughter likes call it “BAE”. Eggs that are either scrambled or runny, crispy bacon, toast with butter and hot coffee make most our morning mealtimes ever since I started working.

But lately have been so busy that I’ve started to skip on breakfast for quite a while, so I decided to make some scrambled eggs for myself yesterday.

Eggs are one of the most versatile food on the planet, you could prepare it in many ways and incorporate it into any dish possible. Eggs are cheap and packed with protein and a staple in any household. Any self-sufficient man must at least know his way around the kitchen. He doesn’t need to be a master chef but at least competent enough to be able to feed himself.

Scrambled eggs are fairly easy to make and there are a variety of ways to cook it. All you need are 3 eggs, 1 tbsp of butter, salt, and pepper to taste.

I start first by melting a tbsp of butter in a nonstick pan over low heat

In a shallow bowl, whisk together 3 large eggs until frothy. Make sure to incorporate as much air as possibly could for lighter and fluffier eggs. Some like to add salt and pepper right away, but I prefer to season my eggs after it’s done.

It’s time to pour in the eggs on the nonstick pan. Make sure the heat set to low, to form smaller curds and creamier consistency.

Now for the crucial part. Using a wooden spatula, gently stir the eggs until small curds are set and push the formed curds towards the center of the pan allowing the runny parts to cook. Tilt the pan when necessary.

Repeat until there are no more runny parts. Remove from the heat, season with salt and pepper and serve along with bacon and toast.


TMI Tuesdays #5

1. What was your biggest worry five years ago, do you still have that same worry or feel the same about it at this minute?

6yrs ago, my ex gave birth to our daughter. Since then, I’ve always worried myself about being a good father and providing for her needs.

Fast forward 5yrs, my ex and I went on our separate lives and I got the custody of our child. And I still worry if I’m doing a good job as her father.

2. Do you have a positive or negative body image? What factors contribute to your self-body image?
a. advertisements
b. media and social media
c. comments from others
d. introspection and analysis of self

Introspection and analysis of self, you could say that I’m conscious about the way I look. Or to put it exactly I’m conscious about how my body performs. How I perform the physical task are of more concern to me than chiseled abs. I also dress as much as I could, there is power in the presentation.

3. How confident are you as a person?
a. no confidence at all
b. confident around friends and family
c. confident at work, and in my job
d. very confident in my surroundings–work, social settings, with strangers

Confident around my friends and family, confidence comes from mastery and how comfortable you are in any given situation. And i could say the I’m comfortable with family and friends.

4. How creative are a person you? Why?
a. not creative
b. average creativity
c. creative in some situations
d. very creative

Creative in some situation depends on the situation really. I’m pretty straightforward most of the time, but I do exercises my creativity when time permits.

5. Do you resent things being uncertain and unpredictable? Why?
a. Agree on
b. Undecided or Don’t Know
c. Disagree

Disagree, thriving in the uncertain and unpredictable is the main goal of anti-fragile life and antifragility is something I’m striving for.

Bonus: What do you wish you had invented?

Glow in the dark condoms… I saw some at the drug store and said to myself, why didn’t I think of that?

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