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Nice guys aren’t good guys. In reality, they are far from what being nice is all about. They are not kind or genuine. They are insecure and manipulative. A total opposite of what they claim to be.
It saddens me that masculinity is synonymous with toxicity these days. There is so much more to being a man. Yet, I cannot ignore the fact that some men are toxic indeed.
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Based on my observations, there is no denying the crisis in masculinity today. Women today know more about being a man than men, and none can blame them. Since a nice guy refuses to pick up the slack, they do not have a choice but to pick it up themselves.
4 Toxic Nice Guy Traits
While Nice Guys are only part of a bigger problem, they seem to be the most prevalent. But what exactly are nice guys? They are men who feign friendships and etiquette for relationships and sex.
Nice Guys Needs Your Approval
Nice guys put women on a pedestal. When expressing their interest, they will treat women with intense adoration. Yet, they will drop the nice guy facade and exhibit resentful fury when rejected.
A nice guy connects his self-worth to the approval and behavior of a woman. As a result, they ignore their own opinions and emotions. When denied, they reach a breaking point and start blaming women.
Nice Guys Love to Justify and Make Excuses
A nice guy has trouble accepting responsibilities. They never own up to their mistakes. Instead, they try to fix the reaction but never address the problems. And when they cannot, they justify and make excuses.
Instead of saying sorry and trying to solve a problem when confronted, a nice guy might say:
- What is the big deal?
- You don’t need to remind me!
- I’m busy right now.
Nice Guys are Manipulative
A nice guy’s generosity comes with a condition. When complimenting a woman, they expect to receive favors from her. Their nice guy entitlement would make you feel like you owe them something. As a result, they would do anything to guilt-trip you into doing what they want.
Of all the nice guy behavior, this one is the most despicable. They are selfish men who like to act as if they care. But in reality, they wanted women to fill a void – it was never because of love. They would scratch your back because they want you to scratch theirs.
Nice Guys have Unhealthy Relationship With Sex
A nice guy likes you to think it was never about sex. But in truth, they use sex as a distraction from stress, loneliness, or other negative feelings. They use porn and masturbation as crutches in dealing with discomfort.
Nice guys treat sex as if it is a dirty little secret. They are ashamed of their sexual impulses. And they could do everything they can not get caught. Because of that, they would manipulate situations to keep their habit hidden.
Be Good at Being a Guy
These days, if you are a man, you are either a jerk or a nice guy. If being a jerk means confidence, ambition, and assertiveness, then so be it. It is much better than being an insufferable nice guy.
When it comes to being a man, your intentions matter. These includes:
- Working on yourself
- Owning your mistakes
- Give out of love
- Embracing your sexuality
Now that I have given you the characteristics of a nice guy, it is time to ask yourself if you are one. Being a man does not happen overnight. It is a lifelong journey. The important thing is that you are true to your intentions and do what you can to be a man.
To courage and freedom!
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