Greetings Barbarians! Long days and pleasant nights!
February 14 is around the corner. I hope you got plans with your significant lady! But in case you are feeling a bit left out this Valentine’s day, I got you.
What exactly is dating? Well, dating is not hanging out with women. It is not going to a club nor staying at home to play monopoly. While those activities are fine, I am sorry to tell you that that is not dating. Men grieved about getting friend-zoned when that is exactly how they treat a woman, a friend. Dating is being in a temporary involvement with someone, so you can get to know them entirely. Perhaps, it could lead to a lengthy relationship or maybe not. There truly is no assurance with dating, but that does not mean you should not try.
I have been on plenty of dates before. Contrary to popular belief, I do not shy away from my involvement. I have a different set of priorities as a solo dad, but that does not mean I do not commit. I am dedicated to my obligation no matter the cost and have an impressive work ethic to boot. It is my most attractive quality. I allot time and effort to ensure mutual satisfaction in my relationships. It is intensive work, but someone has to do it.
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There is nothing wrong with spending time with women, but it does not replace dating. Dating is the key to a lasting relationship. It is a way for you to get to know her on an intimate level. If you do not start dating a woman, then that is what she will forever be – a friend.
Asking a woman out for a date is not troublesome at all, but in case you are wondering how here are a few guidelines.
Ask but never demand. Asking a woman out on a date is not quantum physics; all it takes is initiative and confidence. Be courteous and respectful when you ask her out and when you ask, do it in person or over the phone. A text or a private message is okay but impersonal, and never ask someone else to ask for you. Most women still appreciate it when a man asks them out for a date. Keep courteous and always be respectful; it is the douchiness that turns women off.
Keep it simple. A date does not need to be huge nor expensive; it needs to be sincere. I am not a fan of grand and flashy gestures; I keep my dates as simple as possible. If you need to keep it casual, ask her out for coffee or brunch. If you want to make it romantic, ask her for dinner. On first dates, avoid going to the movies or any activity that takes your attention off her. The goal of dating is to interact on a more personal level. It is a way to know if you would like to have a lengthy relationship with her.
Make it frequent. Do it every time an opportunity presents itself. Life is tough; you got bills you pay. But as much as you could, go out on a date. You are getting to know someone. You cannot get anything conclusive in just one date. Keep on asking her out whenever you can.
Prepare to be rejected. Let us be realistic – not every woman will answer yes to you. I know it sounds depressing, but it is a great thing. It stops you from wasting time and moves on to someone who will reply yes.
Dating, much like getting married or having kids, there is no ideal time for it. Life happens when it happens, so go ahead ask her out. You would never know until you ask!
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I think it’s smart not to go for big or flashy gestures. As a woman, I’d think it’d be distracting. I’d rather get to know the man himself.
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I know right! I tend to go with what I afford that want I want.
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Nice blog
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Thank u
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Please read my post
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My brother could use some of your tips, Mr A. Bless him, he takes rejection terribly but a lot of it really does come down to him trying too hard to inpress. He’s a swell guy, he just needs to believe in himself more and understand that people like him already for who he is.
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Happy Valentines Helen!
I’m sure he is a catch, he just needs to look for a match. Someone who will truly appreciates him. 😉
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Being prepared for rejection is an excellent take on dating.
Because there’s always that one who will say YES. *insert more cheese*
It’s Valentine’s! We’re allowed to be romantic ❤
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Happy Valentines Janis!
Well, you really can’t be certain about these matters. The best one can do is to try. That way, they would not wonder what-ifs. 😉
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True… especially noting that some extramarital affairs come from these “what ifs” that’s why everyone has to seize the moment while it’s allowed or else either suffer from the might have beens or get curious…
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