Manhood and Self Care Routines

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I’m not speaking on behalf of all men out there but men are usually shit when it comes to self-care. Given the pandemic and the general unrest we are all facing, it seems like self-care is not a primary concern. After all, the typical concern of most men, especially in difficult times, is to get the job done. I should know, I’m about to lose our house and all I want to do is to stop that from happening.

Even before, I’m not particularly fond of self-care routines. When there is something that needs to be done, I don’t mind getting scratched, bruised, or cut. After all, I am a man and I have thick skin when it comes to these kinds of things. This left a few of my exes annoyed because they have to take care of me afterward, not that I’m expecting them to. Yet, I will admit that being taken care of feels nice.

All that changed when I choose to be single for a short time. While it is true that a man should do his best in everything he does, he must also learn how to take care of himself. Growing old means learning that no one will take care of you but you, you can’t expect others to do it for you.

Self-care routines are all about making you feel good but it also means doing things you don’t enjoy for the better. It’s what separates self-care from self-destruction. You wouldn’t tell an alcoholic to take care of themselves by drinking more, right?

With that said, I’m here to help out. I’m not in any way claiming to be an expert on this matter. But given my struggles with anxiety, I would be a great source for the subject. I am in no way claiming, in any shape or form, that my opinions are facts.

Now that we got that out of the way, let’s proceed on how to pick the right hobby, pastime, or self-care routine for you.

Make sure you are taking care of the basics first. As much as I want you to get that purple belt in Brazilian Jiujitsu, I also want you to take a shower first. I want you to take care of your basic needs before you go off running around. That means making sure you’ve taken care of your basic grooming and make sure you’ve eaten something. It is very easy to get caught up on things. When you are having a great time we sometimes forget our basic needs.

Pick an activity that offers you a change in pace from your typical work. Wouldn’t it be great if we never have to work to make money? But the reality is very far from it. If you are like me, you are spending most of your time on how to make ends meet. The least we could do about our situation is to at least take a break. If you’re working at a fast pace, pick an activity that forces you to slow things down. If your work is physically demanding, pick something that allows you to remain still. Assess your lifestyle and pick an activity that allows you to shift gears.

Pick an activity that you would make you better in the long run. Not all activities are created equal. If you are like me who is trying to make ends meet, then you’re selective of your activities. Self-care routines or hobbies usually cost money and sometimes even if you want it, there is no way to pay for it. It would be nice to travel to places I’ve never been but the reality is I can’t afford that. But I do enjoy shoes; I enjoy collecting and taking care of them. While you may see it as frivolous, to me it is an investment I make on myself. Pick activities that also serve as an investment.

Pick an activity that allows you to socialize. Man is a social creature. All men are born and die alone, but that doesn’t mean he should live his life alone. No amount of introversion could ever justify not socializing. We all need friends and these days good friends are hard to come by but you’ll never know until you try. Pick an activity that allows you to make friends.

Pursue many self-care routines. I get it, you enjoy reading books, I know, I enjoy them too, but the thing is, reading books can only provide you much. Other self-care activities could also help you with other things. No rule says that X and Y are the only things you can do to take care of yourself. Pick other activities and don’t box yourself in.

So there you have it, a guide on helping you pick out the best self-care routine or hobbies that suit you. I know that it could sometimes feel selfish but always remember that no one will take care of you but you. Things can get rough but with the help of self-care routines, one can feel renewed and invigorated. Sometimes the only way to move forward is to take a step back. Those “selfish” activities are crucial to your wellness as well as your work.

Before I end this post, I’d like to thank my friends for their support during this difficult time. You made us believe that we are worth something when people seem to turn their backs on us. I’m so thankful for your friendship and support. I wish this would be over soon. Maraming salamat at mahal ko kayo!

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To Courage, Freedom, and Self-Care.

“The performer must always be stronger than his task: loads that are too heavy for the bearer are bound to overwhelm him.”
― Seneca, On the Shortness of Life

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2 thoughts on “Manhood and Self Care Routines

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  1. great post
    What resonated with me the most is the importance of balance particularly in matters of self-care. If we are doing something strenuous or hard, then we should balance it out with an easier or less stressful activity. No balance in anyone’s life creates chaos and wrecks havoc on man lol

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    1. Hi Helen! Thanks for dropping by!

      Nicely put! Yes, I agree. Back when I was working as a programmer, I never owned a computer a home. I’m sick of sitting in front of a computer for 8hrs that when I get home I make sure I do something else. Even now with my career as a blogger, I try to have routines that allow me to move or shut off my brain for a while.

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