Greeting Barbarians! Long days and pleasant nights!
Wow, October, and I don’t know what to say but this ought to be good.
First things first: the fundraiser. October is about to end and I’m glad that the bank didn’t come to drive us away. Despite being short, I’ve decided to schedule an appointment with the bank next week. We already have half of the money we need and I’d negotiate if we could give the other half later. Trying even when you know you are failing is still better than doing nothing at all.
If you want to help, the link I’ve provided contains everything you need to know. It contains the whole story as well as pictures of my family and the fundraiser was created under my real name. I value privacy, but for the fundraiser to work, I have to give out some personal information. I don’t usually disclose personal information for safety, especially of my daughter. The internet is such a dangerous place, especially for kids. If it wasn’t for the fundraiser, I wouldn’t do it.
So what happened in October? Well, it took so much from my mental health. I have some serious anxiety attacks in the first half of October. The uncertainty and the constant worrying as well as some health concerns took the best of me. So, I decided to put the fundraiser on the backburner for a while. The constant explaining and self-pitying has affected my mental health. I still promote it but I don’t write much about it anymore as you can see in my previous posts. As much as I needed the money, I need my sanity more. If I go insane, I couldn’t work and make money and that would be a problem. I begin to write again in my usual flirty and confident tone. I begin to write again about the things I enjoy and love, like shoes.
With that said, there are things in October that are noteworthy. I always say that being poor doesn’t mean you have to look poor. There is a huge distinction between frugality and self-deprecation. Looking nice doesn’t mean it costs you an arm and a leg either. It also means that you don’t have to be desperate, pitiful, and helpless when you’re about to lose a house. What you have to do is to remain strong and do whatever it takes to prevent that from happening. Eyes on the prize, I’m a capable man after all. I call it donation but in reality, it is more of a business proposition. You give me money and I do my best to help you out in any way. I’d promote your website, business, book, or whatever you like. I’d help you out in any way I can. My friends, my patrons, and my donors could attest to that. I got a friend who asked me to give her blog a review because she wanted to deliver good content to her readers. I got another friend who asked me to review her short story to which I’m so eager to oblige. It is a great story and I hope she finds success with it. Then I got friends, who never ask for anything in return but to take care of myself, my daughter, and my mom. May God bless these kind-hearted people, I wish you nothing but the best.
Now for the fun stuff.
You all know how much I don’t like wearing ties. So, you would be surprised to know that I bought not one but two neckties this month. So what Mr. A, why should we care about your consumerism? Well, for starters, it is an investment. I spend a little part of my Patreon income on things that I could write about. That means you could expect some necktie related contents in the future.
Another thing, back when I was desperate, I thought about selling some nude photos on OnlyFans. A friend of mine told me that some people make decent money by selling photos of their feet. Then another friend told me that there is a market for well-dressed men. As it turns out, well-cut suits are men’s lingerie and a rolled-up sleeve is sexier than a dick pic. So, if you want to see 140lbs of twisted steel and sex appeal, please check out my Patreon page. For $1/month, you’d get to see the whole caboodle.
Speaking of OnlyFans, I don’t know if any of you subscribe to adult content. But if you do, please check out FLfun’s OnlyFans page. Not only do they give great intimacy advice on their blog, but they also have sexy adult content. So if you’re above 18, please check them out. If not, go have fun somewhere else.
So what else? Ah, right! I’ve been working on a collaboration with Serendipity Coffee Beans and Grounds on some merch! Yes, you heard it right! Mr.A is now entering merch territory. I’ve been working on some mug designs to go along with Serendipity Coffee Beans and Grounds. Tomorrow, I’ll pick up a sample from the printers and I’ll give you updates on this. This is one thing I’m excited about and I’m looking forward to how this would work out.
Finally, the most special thing that happened in October, my daughter’s 8th birthday. Gah, I can’t believe how time flies. It feels only yesterday when she fits into my forearms. Now, she’s taller than my oldest nephew. Given our situation, I never expected to throw a decent celebration for my daughter. Times are tough yet for some reason I still consider myself lucky. I’m lucky to have friends who not only want what’s best for me but also for my daughter. This year is special for the fact that I got friends who took their time to send something for her. Friends whom I’ve never met in person took their time and effort to send gifts to my daughter. If you don’t call that blessed, I don’t know what else to call it. You could take pictures of yourself surrounded by women all you want, but this is priceless.
Now, it’s time to get serious. But before we get to it, I want to make things clear; everyone is entitled to their own opinion. As much as trolls are entitled to theirs, I am entitled to mine and most of the things I say are my opinions. Of course, there are facts but we are all free to decide on what our opinions would be.
TMI Tuesday is a sex blogging prompt, but I am not a sex blogger per se. If you want to put me in a category, I’d say I’m in the Lifestyle and Experience category. I do TMI Tuesdays because it is a way to humanize the texts that you read on the screen. It is a way for us to relate to each other. I am human as you are; I have my deviances and my vices. I am in no way perfect and in truth, very far from it. I do TMI Tuesdays to talk about me in the most honest way possible, without pretentiousness. It was something beautiful until someone came in and turned it into a vicious and hateful place.
We got a troll in our midst…
I promised a friend that this would be the end of it, enough is enough. But I do feel that I owe you all an apology as well as an explanation for what has happened. You, who have been nothing but supportive and kind to me. As a blogger, I have a responsibility to my readers to keep them safe. I would protect my readers as much as I would protect my friends.
To give you some context, it was TMI Tuesday #94, fill in the blank prompt. The question was: What is something unique you do to _ your _?
As someone who is having anxiety attacks, this is a great chance to talk about how I deal with anxieties. So, I filled in the blanks and turned the question into What is something unique I do to ease my mind? To which I answered, “by cleaning and polishing my shoes” and attached a picture. For some reason, a troll had felt the need to say something about it. To be honest, I can’t understand half of what he is saying. But it goes something like if I want to show how desperate I am, I shouldn’t post pictures of polished new shoes.
Okay, that didn’t bother me at all. To tell you the truth, I understand what he is saying despite the TMI being hopeful and not desperate at all. What raised my eyebrow is what he said next. He said that he hopes that my story is true but the shoes ruined the marketing of my desperation.
Okay… Wow, marketing my desperation? I face life’s challenges with humor and a smile. I laughed at it and replied, “Wow, so much for friendly advice, don’t you think?”
Now, on to my next TMI, which is TMI Tuesday #95. I want you to know that I’m neither a poet nor an artist, I have zero artistic talent in my body. What I write about is life and what I learned from it. So I talked about the incident when I got the chance, it is TMI Tuesday after all. I talk about someone calling me out and how it made me feel that I couldn’t talk about what I enjoy. I talked about how happy I am if ever you got your own thing going on for you. I never said anything hurtful to the person. Besides my irritation at the “marketing” comment, I suggested that he gets a confession. It is the same thing a fellow blogger suggested to him too.
I expected a comment, and comment he did. The thing with trolls is they seek attention. The best way to deal with trolls is to either ignore them or to troll them back. And boy, ignore is what I did. That is until he started replying to the other comments. That’s the time I addressed him and stood up for myself and the readers.
You, my readers, who have nothing but kindness towards me should not be exposed to this kind of hate. I want to apologize especially to those who have been caught in the crossfire. You don’t deserve that, we don’t deserve that, and no one does. This is supposed to be a safe space for you and me.
As much as everyone is free to speak, I will now block comments that are uncalled for from now on. I don’t like blocking someone, If someone is to say something stupid, I’d let them make a fool of themselves. Let their stupidity take care of them, but you are not like me. Most of you are women that deserve to be taken care of and be respected.
Now that it’s out of my system, I’ll never talk of this again. Let’s continue to grow and have fun!
Before I end this post, I’d like to thank my friends for their support during this difficult time. You made us believe that we are worth something when people seem to turn their backs on us. I’m so thankful for your friendship and support. I wish this would be over soon. Maraming salamat at mahal ko kayo!
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