Don’t Force Her to Make Decisions

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Gentlemen, how many of you have been asked by your woman if her outfit makes her look fat? Or something more trivial like “where do you want to go?” or “what do you want for breakfast?”. How many of you gave an uninspired answer like “whatever you like” or “I don’t know”?

I could say that it couldn’t be helped, you can’t be 100% all the time. There would be moments that you would be uninspired, lazy, or distracted. There is no doubt that there are moments in a man’s life where something occupies his mind. After all, a man’s life does not only revolve around his woman. 

Yet, an indecisive answer is something that you give to a friend. You and your woman are not only friends. Both of you are more than friends, right? You are playing the dynamics of masculine and feminine polarity in full effect. If not, then why do we get into intimate relationships in the first place?

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The feminine base their decision on what feels right, and most likely is the best way to make a decision. Yet, intimacy is not as simple as making the best decision. It is about deciding while keeping the polarity that draws you together in the first place. If that polarity diminishes then conflicts are bound to happen. When the polarity disappears, then attraction will disappear. If the attraction is gone then the intimacy will vanish. You wouldn’t want that, don’t you? Wouldn’t it be nice if your woman becomes a goddess, offering you her feminine gifts? To evoke the inner goddess, you must first offer your masculine gifts. 

When a woman asks you questions like if her outfit makes her look fat, she is asking for your decisiveness. Yes or no won’t even matter as she is free to change to any outfit she wishes but don’t ever give her an indecisive answer. Don’t give her an “I don’t know” or “whatever suits you” kind of answer as this is a sure-fire way to irritate her. Don’t force her to make the decision when she was the one asking you to make one. 

When your woman makes a decision, she might feel into it and do what feels best for her. She may ask your opinion to make the best possible outcome. This doesn’t mean she can’t make a decision without you and is dependent on you. But rather, wants to include you in her decisions in which you should oblige. 

If you refuse to give your gift of decisiveness then she will have to turn to her masculine capacity. She will come to trust her masculine essence more than yours. You are changing her polarity and with no feminine polarity, there would be no intimacy. 

Do not deprive your woman of your masculine gift of decisiveness. Yet, this doesn’t mean that you would go out and be critical of her every move. It means giving her a decisive answer whenever she asks you about something. It doesn’t mean she is indecisive or not capable of making a decision. It means she wants to include you in the decision she is about to make.

Always be willing to help your woman to make decisions when she asks you to. Be willing to give your outlook while letting her know that you love her regardless if she listens to you or not. Always encourage her to feel into the situation and trust her feeling. And for intimacy’s sake, avoid giving her an “I don’t know” kind of answer, okay?

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24 thoughts on “Don’t Force Her to Make Decisions

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      1. Aw. Sorry to hear that. I know it’s not your fault, I’m sure to have a lot on your plate. I’m guessing she just wants you to be more engaging and not feel alone in making some decisions. I hope everything turns out great for you guys!

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  1. Mr. A, I think the tables are flipped for me. I occasionally ask my spouse certain questions, and I sometimes receive an uninterested response. Hmm, “I don’t care” is not on tonight’s dinner menu.

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  2. I was in a marriage where he would leave the decision making up to me. I hated that. Resented him for it.
    I’m now in a relationship with a man who is decisive and has no trouble making the decisions. It is freeing. I’m very happy.
    On a very few occasions he has had me make the decision. But it was purposeful in that moment, to encourage my decision making skills. I didn’t like it, but I understood the place it was coming from. So I pushed myself and he let me know he was proud of me.
    But oh my gosh, I was happy to give the decision making back to him after! Lol

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    1. I’m sorry if you felt like that with your ex and I’m happy to know you are having a wonderful time with your new partner. I think it was good practice to exercise decision-making skills. So, good job on that part!
      Cheer! 🍸

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  3. Yes! You are SO right! I dated a guy who did this and it got so incredibly infuriating, honestly. I think it was even why I left him. I’d ask him what he wanted to do. and he’d just say “whatever you want to do”. If I asked him what he wanted to eat, it was whatever I wanted to eat, and so on. It gets boring and fast. I make all of the decisions for myself, I don’t want to have to make them for someone else, too! Lovely writing, thankyou for sharing 🙂

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      1. Aww no! I’m really sorry to hear that. Definitely some give and take is key though. I’ve lost count how many times I’ve wanted to stuff my husband!


  4. To be fair with other men, I believe the standard it’s-up-to-you (and the like) answers are but self-preservation measures. Hahaha!

    We have to admit the reality that there are [some] women out there, who are not willing to listen.

    My fiancé is one of the few brutally honest persons I know. But when he says something, he says it in the most diplomatic way practicable and with good intentions. I may disagree with him at times, but I consider all his insights on me.

    I think, in a relationship, we just have to be more open, so as to foster a conducive environment for constructive feedback. This is because, as you said, after all, couples are actually more than friends.


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