Greetings Barbarians! Long days and pleasant nights!
Have you ever found yourself scratching your head in confusion because of a woman? Have you ever found yourself saying “but you said…” in surprise to your woman? If you do, there is no need to worry as most men share your frustrations. However, I will tell you now that women are not liars even if they are fickle-minded
If you’ve been a constant reader of this blog, you’ll find L popping up in some of my writing. She was one of my former bosses and ex-lover that made a drastic impact on my life.
I could still remember that special night as if it was yesterday. We were arguing and she was crying, she wanted us to get married. Yes, she was the one who asked my hand in marriage, and that night despite the argument, I never felt so loved in my life. Yet, for some reason, I said no but told her that I will be there forever even without marriage. Fast-forward a few weeks, she texted me not to come home anymore and she will mail my stuff to my house. She was breaking up with me after proposing to me. Did I hate her? No, I understand it more than most people give me credit for. Does that mean she didn’t love me? Despite what I usually say, No. She did and she made a hell of a job of making me feel it.
Same with my ex-wife, not keeping their word to love till death do us part does not make them liars. They simply are women.
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Men feel what they do and say and women do and say what they feel. If at a given moment a woman tells you they love you, that simply means they do. Their words are the expression of their feelings whether it may be of love or dissatisfaction. Men, on the other hand, tells a woman he loves her, by whatever the cost, he should. His word is his honor and a woman’s word is her expression at the moment. We, men, value our word as much as women value their feelings.
In my interview with Pancake, you may remember her saying I tend to go silent when I am upset. Not that I don’t want to talk about my feelings but rather I don’t want to say something I might regret later. I don’t want my emotions to drive my words and hurt somebody. It is better to cool down then talk.
Men tend to forget that their woman is a woman whenever they find themselves confused by her actions. Keep in mind that you cannot treat women the same way you treat your male friends. Whenever your woman is feeling down, you cannot tell her to “suck it up, buttercup” and expect her to feel better.
You cannot expect your woman to keep on loving you even if you don’t give her enough reason to love you. You have to make a woman feel love for them to say they love you. Even if they say they love you, you can’t expect it to remain that way. A man’s life is both a constant celebration and challenge of his manhood. You cannot expect a plant to survive a year if you only water it once much like a woman’s love. A woman’s feelings might be fickle however, women are not liars, they simply are women.
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I really enjoyed this piece.
This part was spot on.. “I don’t want to say something I might regret later. I don’t want my emotions to drive my words and hurt somebody. It is better to cool down then talk.”
I guess you could say I’m in a bit of a role reversal as I “shut down” to prevent my anger from lashing out and causing permanent damage. We do discuss the issue after the cooling off period and the results are much better.
Take care,
-Jae
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Wow, I don’t know how to respond. Thank you!
More power to you and your blog, I’m a great fan of your writing! Cheers! 🍸
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Soo true👏☺
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Thanks for dropping by, cheers! 🍸
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As a woman, I told myself the same thing about my friend… I think it’s a communication problem… 😀
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Hi Altair, I hope the communication problem got resolved. Cheers! 🍸
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Of course … we are … smart ? 😀
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No doubt! 😉
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😀
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This is so offensive on so many levels I don’t have words to put to it!!!! This is extremely misogynistic and discounting women on so many levels. This particular post takes the cake with all the stuff you put out there. Just wow!!!
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I apologize if you find it distasteful.
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Very true. I’ve learned not to hang on every word my wife says. She’s human and flawed, just as I am human and flawed. I don’t do very well with nagging or constant waterworks. I just sit down and listen, and repeat “I love you, you are allowed to leave if you want. Love is a decision and I have made the decision to love you. You are not required to return the affections and stay. The Lord will never leave me”. It shocks her, I guess she was expecting me to cry and beg her not to leave. Well she stayed, thank God. But I will not genuflect to anyone but Jesus. 😂
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I admire what you did.
Cheers to you! 🍸
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Thank you for your post today Mr. A., I enjoyed it very much. You are right and my blog is all about me being a woman and saying whatever I feel. Sending you love.
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And I love who you are!
I’m glad you enjoyed it, cheers! 🍸
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Mr. A, your spin on women in your discussion is spot on. Great post!
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Thank you Teach! I appreciate that.
Cheers to you. 🍸
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That is very true! The words always have infinite thoughts behind them, but they tend to only describe a fraction of the whole turmoil- an abstract, to say the least. Enjoyed reading it, especially that it’s free of stereotypes!
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Hi Nour! It was nice to hear from you again. I’m glad you enjoyed it! 🍸
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Award winning piece!
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I doubt that it will win any awards but thanks. Cheers to you! 🍸
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Lol I saw so much of the past me in this, I know I should have not laughter, but it is true. I am just glad I have gotten a lot better. Thanks for posting
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Hi Zita, I’m glad that you are better!
Thanks for dropping by, cheers! 🍸
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I find this post slightly sexist if I’m honest.
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Hi Scottish Lassie! Thanks for dropping by!
Just sligthly sexist? I’m just kidding.
One commenter thought it was extremely misogynistic.
Anyways, I apologize if you find it like that. I’m in no way discrediting women or any sort.
Cheers! 🍸
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I am super torn about my feelings about this post. It’s well-written — I felt how sincere you were with the thoughts you’ve put into writing, it was intense, the last line though can be quite controversial because I personally do not make my decisions based on my being a woman… and I would rather own up to my lie than be told “it’s fine, I forgive your forgetting about your promise, you’re a woman, I get it.” Hehe… I don’t mean to argue and I am trying my best to be as polite and respectful since I love your content, how raw and pure they are… be that as it may, you’re the barbarian gentleman anyhow 😀
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profound
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Thank you Sophia!
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Ohhhh wow!! I loved this. “His word is his honour, and her word is her expression. As much as he called his word, she values her feelings”
Bang on 😎🤘
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Cheers! 🍸
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I am smiling and nodding in agreement to all of what you said here.
Well written Mr. A. A woman is simply a woman…nothing more nothing less
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Aw, I’m very happy that see it like that. Cheers to you Mich and more power, alway! 🍸
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Always THE question ! Thank you for joigning my blog – amitiés 🙂
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Thank you as well!
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🙂 We are complicated people, for sure!! Blessings, Mr. A and Pancake!!
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Nope, I never lie unless it is something that I don’t want to tell you… hehehe
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This is sooooo true!!! Oh boy i miss you 😍.
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Lucylu!!!!! I miss you too!!! 😉
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