Develop a Genuine Interest in Other People

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Quick question, what was the coolest thing you’ve done in your life? Seriously, what was the thing that you did in life that makes you say to yourself “I did good”? I’d love to hear about your greatest moment in life. I know you’ve got plenty, so let’s hear it!

I’ve always been fascinated by other people’s stories. I knew that it’s none of my business and I sure hate to stick my nose into other people’s business. But when other folks deemed my worth and decided to open up with me, I’d sure be happy. 

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“Be interested in other people,” that’s what my mother used to say. “I never married your father because of his good looks but rather his warm and welcoming smile”, she said. And it’s quite true; a warm and genuine smile is one of a man’s arsenals in life. Smiling at someone is almost the same as telling them that you saw and approved what they are doing. With a simple gesture, you’re placing them on a spotlight that they deserve. 

The thing is, we love being noticed, regardless of what wrongs we did in life, we all wanted to be noticed. We wanted to have friends to give us company, no one wakes up in the morning and says “I want to be lonely today!” with great enthusiasm.

But despite that fact, why do some people end up alone? I don’t think extroversion or introversion has something to do with it. To be honest, people use introversion as an excuse for not having friends, the keyword here is “having”. Everyone wants to have friends, regardless of how many and how deep the connection is. But as we all know, wanting something doesn’t mean having. Introversion and Extroversion do have varied responses to stimuli, but we need connections. 

So what are we doing wrong, and how can we prevent this? My answer, we fail to acknowledge the human condition. We are so occupied with our awesomeness that we almost don’t notice others. 

Confidence, especially of a man, lies in what he could do both for himself and to others. It is honorable for a man if he could make friends for the benefit of himself and at the same time others.

One can gain more friends by taking an interest in others than being interesting. By becoming interested in a person, you are noticing them and placing them in the spotlight. You are validating who they are and what they are doing. 

Everyone, to some extent, wants validation; no one likes to be dismissed. We all want that metaphorical pat on the back. We all want that feeling of appreciation saying “I see what you’re doing and I approve”. Now, the question is; if we are all aware of that then why deprive someone else of it?

I have a few simple rules in life, one of them is “you cannot give something you don’t have”. The way I see it, there are plenty of reasons to take an interest in others. No one wants to feel unwanted, everyone wants to feel that somehow, they belonged. He who takes a genuine interest in others will never feel unwelcome. 

To Courage and Freedom, and Friends.

“The only way to have a friend is to be one.”
― Ralph Waldo Emerson

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  1. One of the coolest things I ever did was bring flowers to my little sister while she was in school. I wanted her to feel special on valentines. I did not tell her they where from me. I was in the military and I happened to come home and I thought about how I felt looking at other girls get valentines grams and how I would have felt to have gotten one when I was in school. She felt special. That was all that mattered to me. I wanted her to feel special

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    1. Hi hmaxwell! This is indeed lovely!
      I’m sure you succeed in making her feel special! Being the eldest among 3 siblings, I can sure relate to this story.

      Cheers to you and your sister! 🍸

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  2. I remember one year, my husband and I stayed up until the wee hours of the morning filling our tiny apartment with fake snow, and snowflake decorations everywhere, just so that on Christmas morning our kiddo could wake up to a White Christmas. We were flat exhausted, but seeing her eyes sparkle at the magic of it all felt so good inside. Beautiful post! I loved it. 🙂

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  3. This year I set the goal of not paying attention to my blog stats but focus more on those who comment regularly – in essence, grow more blogging friendships versus # of followers. It’s more enjoyable that way for me so I call that a success. Your comments re: introversion made me think of the book I recently read – Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking by Susan Cain. Susan’s book contains timeless info re respecting our differences when it comes to introversion versus extroversion. I wish I would’ve had that book available to read when I was raising my daughters. Social media can be a tough platform for introverts (I say that speaking as an introvert myself). Happy Blogging to you – I wish you success in reaching your goals!

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  4. I frequently go out of my way to “see” people when I’m out and about in the world. I make it a habit of smiling at a homeless person as I walk down the street. There was one occasion in particular where the man was so shocked that I’d not only seen him, but acknowledged him that it took a moment to return the smile. The smile I got in return was the most beautiful, brightest smile I think I’ve ever seen. ♥ The second it took me to smile made a real impact on this mans life. There was another time a homeless woman sat knitting in a coffee shop drinking her coffee. I commented on her beautiful work followed by sitting down and chatting with her as I drank my coffee. The looks I got from other customers ranged from stunned at being kind to her to absolute disgust when I actually sat down with her. People are people!! Being kind takes nothing away from who I am or what I’m doing. These are only a few of the things I do to take time to see people and be present in the world.

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    1. Hi! Thanks for dropping by!
      I love your story, it was really one of those “you did good” kind of moments. I hope you keep it up, the world needs more people like you right now. Let this story be an inspiration to many.

      Cheers to you! 🍸

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  5. Sometimes btw hello it’s not about abundance or quantity of friendships it’s about a simular like, a strong connection of excitement a validation of each other’s company we all must give and receiver to one another to construct solid valuable, trusted respected friendships…

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    1. Hi Fran! Glad to hear from you again! like I said, to some it may be the quantity and to others, quality. But everybody needs someone.

      I’m so happy to hear from you again! Cheers! 🍸

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  6. A smile costs nothing yet can reap huge benefits for others and in turn for ourselves. I like to put relevant comments on people’s blogs. If I can write a few encouraging words or words of wisdom, I try my best to do so. One blogger contacted me and told me how much my comments meant to her and how they have made her blog better. That, to me, was better than selling a few of my books. To know I have helped someone through their day or circumstances or just given them a little joy is a wonderful feeling. Thanks for sharing your blog.

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  7. Wonderful post, Mr.A! Got plenty of stories, though to share them all would be quite a feat! A recent one was when I was volunteering for the relief center. I sat down next to a homeless woman I was serving on the patio. At first, she seemed scared of me and was reticent, but I reassured her that I wasn’t there to hurt her. She opened to me about a lot of things soon after, and there were so many points of connection between us that she smiled and cried at the same time.

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      1. Yes, it’s been a super busy past couple of months, but I appreciate reconnecting! I do hope for many to get back on their feet. Sometimes, life has a way of knocking people down, but they must get back up again.

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      2. Like I always say, life is as volatile as it gets. But that’s the spirit, keep on getting up after getting knocked down!

        Cheers Theresaly! 😮

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  8. It’s so important to be mindful enough to be interested in others. One of my favorite scriptures is Philippians 2:3,4 which reminds us all to be humble and look out for the interests of others. When we do that we spread positivity and can affect change in many small ways.

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