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Let me tell you something about myself, you see, I was not always confident, charming and dashing. I grew up very insecure, I envy the cool kids who had everything, the coolest toys, friends, and girlfriends. I carried that envy until my young adulthood and made critical life decisions with that envy. I postponed a lot of things in life because of my ex-wife, I’ve abandoned friends, family and myself because of that.
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Wisdom indeed comes with age, and in my case, experience. I could say that I have experienced a lot to know what I am talking about. Love or at least true love will never get in the way of a man’s destiny.
A man’s purpose must come first above all else, not your woman. I know, I know, that sounds harsh and selfish but try to hear me out. Your women would be happy for 30 minutes of your undivided attention than an hour with only half of it. Ron Swanson got it right when he said: “Never half-ass two things, whole ass one thing”.
I found a lot of young guys out there falling head over heels in regards to love. There is nothing wrong with that, it’s just that almost all haven’t realized their mission in life. I should know, I made the same mistake before. A Mistake that I’m not planning to make any time soon.
A man must do everything he can to align his life with his purpose. If he doesn’t yet know his purpose, he must do everything he can to find it. A man cannot live without his purpose or else, he will live his life confused and unsatisfied. Yes, he will enjoy the comfort and warmth of a woman, but he will spend his life thinking of what-ifs.
As for me, I found my purpose in being a father. Being a parent always comes first even for romance. Sometimes, I wonder if such a woman exists; someone who is willing to go second in the order of things. To be honest, I haven’t seen one so far, and I sure hope Pancake does.
My experiences in life made me a man who no longer overvalue happiness but look for purpose instead. Why settle for something fleeting when you can go for something lasting? A lot of people will try to convince you to search for happiness but deep inside you will know that that is not true.
I should know, being a father to a little girl is not rainbows and sunshine all the time but it was fulfilling. I would trade all the rainbows and sunshine in the world for that kind of fulfillment.
Parenting is a challenge yet, I have become more at peace with myself. No woman could ever fill the void that being a father gives me. I wish Pancake would understand, No one could ever separate me from my daughter. Parenting has made me whole and made me one with myself.
The purpose may come in many forms, mine was fatherhood; others maybe their work or sports. Regardless, men should pursue their purpose and focus on his destiny. To be quite honest, I think women like men who pursued his destiny before settling in. Women, please comment below if you agree.
A lot of people have been asking me how do I manage unemployment while raising a child. My simple answer would be I do whatever it takes. Every morning I tell myself that my complaints don’t matter, so suck it up, buttercup! The important thing is that I keep the ball rolling and hustle. As for my kid’s mother, she is living the life and I wish her all the best. Not that I’m bitter but, what she’s doing right now is none of my concern as if it is going to make our life any easier. I focus on my destiny.
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