How to Deal with People: Appreciate, appreciate, appreciate!!!

Greeting Barbarians! Long days and pleasant nights!

In life, I always measure success by how far you’ve gone and the number of people you’ve managed to piss off. In short, how you deal with people is almost as crucial as how good you are at something. In a world of locked doors, a man with a key is king. A man who can navigate in social situations is king and his secret – genuine appreciation.

I never knew what to expect when I first started writing. Back then it was just 8 people who followed me, I seldom get likes and much less with comments. I remember how my heart jumped to the first comment I’ve ever got and how shy I was to make my reply. Then around October, last year; for some unknown incident – I started gaining attention. It still baffles me, how a single dad from the Philippines could ever reach something like these. From the bottom of my heart, thank you all – you guys are the best peers a guy like me could ever have.

I still find it absurd why most men, even for the sake of their self-regard refuse to appreciate others. Truth is when you die it is not your work who would remember you but rather the people you work with. All that hard work in getting rich, getting better would be all for nothing if one doesn’t know how to value others.

People need to feel important, even you need to feel important. It is that deep-seated need that propels great men to become who they are today. Imagine if such greatness is dashed out by some selfish asshole who thinks he is better than the rest.

How many spouses have ran away because they feel unappreciated? How many employees have resigned because of difficult bosses? How many bloggers here, who felt like quitting because of lack of appreciation? I am guessing a lot (I’d love to hear your thought about this).

How come it’s so easy to speak out our discontent; but in odds that we do like what we saw, we keep mum about it? It is natural for us to be self-centered, even the most selfless of persons can be at times self-centered. “Why?” you ask. Because we have no sure-fire way to know what others are thinking or feeling. We got our selves to deal with, and we assume that others do too. Because it is easy to stay on top of our game or to remain shy. We’re more comfortable to keep our hands inside our pocket than to reach them out. We value our time and our self so much, that a simple appreciation seemed too much of a hassle.

Even for the most selfish of reasons, I don’t see any reason not to appreciate other people. If you want to improve your social standing, appreciate the guy next to you. If you want to establish intimacy with a woman, appreciate the woman in front of you. If you want to encourage your child to become a better person, appreciate their efforts. The thing is, you want to influence them; you want them to listen to you – how will they listen if you alienate them?

Learn to appreciate everyone, never refrain in giving your sincere and honest appreciation. Tell your friend how honored you are to have him as your friend. Tell your significant other how wonderful she is and how much love her. Tell your children that they are the greatest gift you’ve ever had. Tell that blogger that they are doing a great job, you’ll never know what they’re going through.

I don’t care about what modern convention has to say, appreciation is never out of style. Sure, you could stick a gun on someone to force him to comply, but they’d kick your ass the moment they got the chance. Improve your social standing, appreciate others. Appreciation will give you the respect of others, women will find you even more charming. Your sincere appreciation will set you apart from the rest.

Do what others are ignoring to do, appreciation will not make you a pushover. That would only happen with empty flattery, but not with sincere appreciation. Also, avoid backhanded compliments; it would make you sound like an asshole. Be sincere and truthful in appreciation, do it for yourself if not for others.

To courage, freedom, and appreciation!

“Dwell on the beauty of life. Watch the stars, and see yourself running with them.” 
― Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

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22 thoughts on “How to Deal with People: Appreciate, appreciate, appreciate!!!

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  1. This is a great post, it makes me think of a certain someone in this blogging world who always ends her posts ‘with gratitude.’ (hugs to you Nina if you read this). Sometimes I hold back if I like something, and this is a good reminder not to.

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  2. “If you want to encourage your child to become a better person, appreciate their efforts ” – i love this statement from you – to be witnessed is the most rewarding thing in life, I agree with most of what you wrote (LOL!) but that line was precious. if only more parents were like that we could solve world problems, childhood traumas create dysfunctional adults, when all they needed was to be loved and appreciated. one of your most prolific posts my friend. no wonder you have gained such an steady loyal following, really good writing worth reading!

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    1. Hi Gina! Thank you!
      I agree.
      As a parent, yes, you do have an obligation to correct the child if they are wrong. But at the same time, you gotta really focus more on their positive traits.

      PS. I always love your compliments!
      Cheers to you and more power!

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