“I could see it as you turned to stone
Still clearly I can hear you say
Don’t leave, don’t give up on me
Two weeks and you ran away
I remember don’t lie to me
You couldn’t see that it was not that way
Swear I never gave up on you”
– All That Remains (Two Weeks)
Greeting Barbarians! Great day! First off, let me tell you how awesome you are! But you know what is not awesome? Promises… To be honest, we as men should know how to keep our promises. We should go back on being men of our word, instead of the always ranting, always complaining, always making excuse kind of men that seems prevalent these days. But… as men, we also must learn how to live a reality free from the promises of others and be the best that we could be on our own terms. Sad as it may be, but we all know we cannot allow others to take hold of our reality. It must be realized by our own heart and shaped by our own hands, we must be free and must not be blinded by the promises made.
“I wanted us to get married someday,” she said, as tears pour out of her eyes. My heart softens as she sobs right in front of me, and that night I wrapped my arms around her, showered her with kisses, and we made love. Never in my life have I felt so loved by a woman, and it was a moment I held on to for a very long time. Finally, I have found someone who will love me for who I am, despite all my flaws and shortcoming. Fast forward a few weeks, I was at work when I received a text from her asking not to come home to our apartment anymore, I got all my stuff packed in a box. That moment I knew I was getting kicked out of the house, again I would be homeless. I tried to talk but to no avail, it was a hopeless effort anyways. So I moved out and did my best to adjust to my new life alone. For a year, I still hold out for that promise despite the pain. Funny thing was, I do not even blame her; I was a pathetic puny man back then.
Like I always say, “Life is as volatile as it could get”. The promise of love made today may no longer exist tomorrow. Now, I’m not calling women to be liars; it is quite the opposite actually. Women are the most honest creatures on the face of the earth if you ask me. They have the luxury to speak from their hearts and mind, they have the liberty to speak what they feel and think. They are the most magnificent creatures that ever walked the earth, and if they cannot keep the promise they made; you got yourself to blame for that my friend.
You see, my friends; we as men cannot live under the reality promised by others. Just because someone promised to us love despite our flaws does not mean we should put little or no effort at all. A promise of love does not mean we no longer have to love ourselves. To be honest, it is a lot of hard work; every day you have to prove yourself to the world that you are worthy. Working on the mundane details, filling up the little nooks and crannies of life; but the most important aspect is on how we love ourselves. It is true that how others will see us depends on how we see ourselves. Which pretty much what can be said about love, how we love ourselves will determine how others will love us. We as men cannot really give what we do not have, so we love ourselves to the point that we no longer need to rely on the promise of love made by others. Self-reliant and self-sufficient, it is our duty to stand the test of time; to never withering from age, to never faltering from the strongest of gusts. Comfort may be a beautiful place but there is no growth there.
Freeing yourself from the promise made by others makes you self-reliant, and who does not want a self-reliant man. A man that can stand by himself and push through a storm, and what could be sexier than that? A man that is free to give all of his gifts and can take care of himself and his business.
Living outside the promises of others sets us free. Free from the limitations we set upon ourselves with that promise. Our reality is ours to shape, not by the words of others. And in my opinion, a great way to live. Freedom to shape my reality and the courage to face what goes along with it.
Promises are beautiful, and the words are powerful. But beautiful and powerful as they may be, words and promises are volatile. Today, you may be the greatest thing since the invention of sliced bread; but tomorrow, you might be the devil incarnate. The reality is that things change, blood pacts can be betrayed, marriage vows can be torn. Promises are easy to make and easy to break, and we men cannot simply build a reality base on something as volatile as that. We must take root to something that has a more structural foundation, ourselves… Do to yourself what you wish others would do to you, Give to yourself what you wish others would give to you. Make a promise to yourself to grow and be larger than life, and that is, in my opinion, a great way to go. Be the promise you wish for yourself.
That’s it my fellow Barbarians, I conclude my post. I wish you all the best in taking back and shaping your reality. If you like this post, then what the hell are you waiting for? Go ahead and give its post some love. And make sure to comment down below, You know I would be glad to hear your thoughts. I know you hear this a lot but your support means so much to me and to every content writer out there. In case you still have not subscribed to this, to keep yourself updated on the recent happening on this blog.