“You must understand that love never keeps a man from pursuing his destiny. If he abandons that pursuit, it’s because it wasn’t true love… the love that speaks the Language of the World.” – Paolo Coelho
Love is the most wonderful feeling ever, or is it? Love is the greatest source of our inspiration. Love gives us happiness, it gives us warmth, it makes us see the world through a different lens. Love makes the world go round as they say, and the whole world is chock full of addicts of love. But along love comes our heartbreak, our unrealistic expectations that leads to heartbreak and the wisdom we acquire from it.
Coming from failed relationships after the other, I am no stranger to heartbreak. Heartbreaks are hard and it hurts, regardless of how amicable it ended. The nagging feeling where you always ask yourself where the hell it went wrong? The moment where everything you’ve got going on in your life got derailed and you’ve been left with no direction. Suddenly you are lost…
But I’ve always believed that there’s a lesson in everything. That you’ve never really lost at something, you just learn and try to be a bit stronger and a bit wiser the next time. Never letting your heartbreaks prevent you from loving again and let your heartbreak set the standard for your future relationships.
How you love a person will always be a reflection of how you love yourself. Seeing your own beauty through them like a mirror. Love is the way your soul radiates through them and everything is at peace. Love exist exactly at the point where your reality and desires meet. It is not unrealistic yet not nondescript.
I’ve been single for more than a year now and it has given me plenty of time to reassess my ideals of love and set new standards for myself. I deserve someone who would trust in my wisdom first and foremost. Someone who would trust me more or as much as they’ll love me. A woman who is a complementary opposite of me. I deserve a woman who would choose me and will not suppress me and will openly accept my gifts.
I’ve matured enough to stop hoping for an easy woman, a woman who won’t test me. I’ve already opened myself to the idea that maybe there is no one out there for me. But despite that, I’ve chosen to live my life the best I could and with an open heart believing that love is a wonderful thing.
Love will not complete you but rather love will see the completeness in you. Love will magnify your imperfect radiance, love will not be blind to your flaws but rather focus on the goodness in you.